No intention....

I was reading this article on Boundless.org and the author said the following statement, which really stood out to me:

"If you have no intention of getting married for the next decade, then why in the world are you dating in the first place?"

Amen, brother! So many people (men AND women) are out there dating people for long periods of time with no intention of marrying the person they are "with." What a way to waste someone's time. There are so many (seems like mostly women, but there are men too) who DO want to get married and get into a relationship with someone with hopes that it's going to lead somewhere... and somewhere is not dating for a really long time or moving in together to "play house" for a while and see where things go. It's a lifelong commitment and partnership of marriage.

Those of us who are marriage-minded are not dating just for the fun of it and for something to do on Saturday night. We are dating to try to find that special person that God made just for us so that we can do the thing that God created us for: leave our families and create new ones by marrying. So it's really unfair for people who are not marriage-minded to come along and use up our precious time when they know they don't want the same thing. They are just getting in the way of us finding the people who do want to get married.

This is why I hate the whole game of dating. Why can't we just be real and honest about what we want. No. Instead, society tell us (mostly the guys) not to allow anyone to put pressure on you and to run from anyone who wants to "tie you down." Don't ever grow up. Please! If you would just be real about not wanting to commit, the rest of us can move on and find someone who does, and you don't have to freak out that someone is trying to cut your fun time short. It's selfish. You want your cake and to eat it too. Meanwhile, those of us who want to settle down are still single into our late 20s/early 30s, lonely, and don't know who we can actually trust anymore.

It's really sad how our society has changed so much for the worse. Despite what the world would have you think, Feminism and the Sexual Revolution have messed it up for us all. Men are living self-destructive lives (that "seem fun") instead of marrying, having families, and, as a result, living happier, longer, and fuller lives. Women are being abandoned, having kids out of wedlock with no real promise that the father will stick around or being stuck to raise them alone, OR choosing to abort their children only to go back out there and get pregnant again. All this because we no longer think it's a good thing to pursue marriage...

Sounds like progress to me!

Well, keep your progress. I'll take marriage... Now if only we could identify and immediately avoid the losers who don't want a commitment, then we could find the winners who do a lot faster. They should have a Tag & Release program or something....